Doubting yourself as a mother: very normal

Whether you're pregnant or just became a mother, sooner or later that one question will arise: "Am I a good mother?" You might recognize thoughts like, "Am I doing it right? What if I make mistakes? Shouldn't I feel more, know more, be able to do more?"

These doubts are completely normal. They're part of the major change you're going through—physically, emotionally, and practically. Motherhood is intense and demanding. But uncertainty doesn't have to take over.

Why Mothers Often Have Doubts

There are several reasons why uncertainty in motherhood is common:

• You want the very best for your child. That high bar sometimes leads to self-criticism.

• Hormones and fatigue make you more emotionally sensitive.

• Well-meaning advice from family, friends, or online can leave you feeling like you don't know enough.

• The image of the “perfect mother” on social media or in magazines can make you doubt yourself.

Know this: doubts are a sign that you are engaged and loving. You care about your child and you're doing your best—and that's what matters.

Common Thoughts Moms Have – and How to Cope

• "I don't know what I'm doing." No mother has all the answers. You naturally grow into your role and are allowed to make mistakes.

• "Why does it seem easier for others?" Don't compare yourself to others. What you see is often only a small part of reality.

• "What if I'm not good enough?" Good enough is good. Love and attention are more important than perfection.

• "I don't always feel happy, is that normal?" Yes, it is. Motherhood is wonderful, but also intense and sometimes difficult. Taking time for yourself is important.

How do you gain more confidence in yourself as a mother?

• Talk about it with your partner, friends or a professional.

• Find positive support and surround yourself with people who encourage you.

• Trust your intuition. You know your baby best.

• Give yourself some rest and accept that you don't have to be able to do everything right away.

• Choose what works for you. Not every piece of advice is suitable, so let go of what doesn't work.

A helping hand with Bach Flowers

For mothers who often struggle with doubts, Larch , one of the original Bach Flower remedies, can offer support. This flower helps with uncertainty and increases confidence in your own abilities. A gentle, natural way to strengthen yourself during this new phase of life.

Discover the Bach Flower range at TS Health Shop and choose the blossom that suits your situation.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Is it normal to doubt whether I'm a good mother?
Yes, that's perfectly normal. Uncertainty is part of the transition to motherhood and means you're committed and want the best for your child.

What can I do to become more confident as a mother?
Talk about your feelings, seek support from positive people, and trust your intuition. Give yourself time and space to grow into your role.

Which Bach Flower can help with uncertainty in motherhood?
Larch is the Bach Flower that helps with feelings of doubt and supports your self-confidence.

Finally

Remember: there's no such thing as a perfect mother. You are exactly the mother your child needs. Trust yourself, be gentle with your own journey, and give yourself space to grow.